Little Chelsea Lesson

I learned in a book recently, and I also have learned through my bible study, that people aren't always who they seem to be, and they do not always want the best for you.  I think that girls especially tend to think of everyone in their lives as being kind-hearted, and looking out for their best interest.  Nothing could be further from the truth. I have come to this realization over the last five years after dealing with friends and people I thought were close to me, and Jordon for that matter.  In the book I am reading, the author refers to these people as vampires, who suck the life out of you.  They may be friends with a negative outlook, jealous friends, or people who are two-faced(acting like your bestie, but really praying for your downfall).  Women tend to hold onto these people and believe that they are truly going to change, or that deep down they love or like you.  They won't, trust me.  In order for me to finally explain this to myself, after realizing it for years, I began to go back to my roots and think of it in terms of sports.  I will share this insight with you.

Everyone can group the people around them into two groups. One group is the supporters.  These people genuinely support your life and effort.  Lets take for example one of my athletes, Julia, who is the best jumper on the team, if not best athlete, and is only a freshman. Her support team consists of her three coaches, a few upper classmen teammates who help her, her parents, and her two best friends who come to watch her each week.  The other group, "the vampires" can be called the competition.  Julia's competition is the other team, teammates who want to beat her, and other random friends.  Now Julia is so sweet, that if you asked her, she would say everyone is her friend, i.e. everyone is on her support team.  Little does she know the jealousy that is raging around her from her abilities. 

Now, where we women fall is when we seek out help and support or even just friendship from the competition.  We wouldn't ask them to tell us what we are doing wrong when we run, or ask them how to be faster.  They would most likely tell us the opposite.  We are asking for a let down.  Then, on the other hand, we sometimes don't seek out our support team until its too late because we tend to think we already  know what they will say (which is probably your answer)...So sum up my little lesson, I challenge you to build your support system and let go of the vampires!  Now I don't want you to get on the phone and de-friend all of the people in your life who you wouldn't consider a support member.  Try to strengthen the relationships of your supporters, and lesson those of vampires.  Be kind, but don't invest in them.  They are not worth it, and will only waste your time and energy, making you less capable of being the rockstar you are!  I wish I would have known this years ago!